In the fall of 2013, Sammi’s mealtimes became the most tortuous they’d ever been. Eating enough food took every free moment of her day.
Like the endless meals of her earlier years, Sammi’s times of sitting at the table became a fight between my instinct to fill our relationship with more than just the constant nagging to eat and my growing worry over how obviously difficult it was for her to get enough calories in a day. I could feel my blood pressure rise every time I watched her sit, holding a spoonful of uneaten food, and talk to me about what she had seen on television or what was happening at school. No food was tasty enough to hold her attention. She would rather do anything other than eat.
“Just. Eat. That. Bite,” I’d say with my back to her, clenching my jaw.
Ten minutes. Twenty minutes. Thirty minutes. After half a cup of cereal and milk, it was time to leave for school. On a good day, she would eat half of a small quesadilla, a few crackers, and one Oreo for lunch. On a bad day, just a few bites of her quesadilla. At dinner, she stopped every five minutes or so to refill her water, go to the bathroom, or inexplicably stand up and bounce next to her seat. By 7:45 — usually more than 90 minutes after dinner began — we would have to stop her meal so that she could go to sleep.
Massive doses of Prevacid — a proton-pump inhibitor that kept her stomach from producing acid — took away her symptoms, but anything less than a crazy dose returned her to us as the sunken-eyed, chronically underfed child we’d struggle to help through a day.
To say that this process was maddening is to touch only the surface of the fury it brought up in me. Why couldn’t she eat like a normal kid? I spent much of each school day in a state of cognitive dissonance, trying not to think of how few calories she was taking in, how little fuel she had to get her through gym class, recess, and a day of learning.
Her gastroenterology team told me, whenever I worried to them, that these kids with eosinophilic esophagitis are notoriously poor eaters. They feel nauseated a lot of the time. They have bad associations with food. They don’t know any different, so they can’t describe the feelings to us. This is their normal, the doctors and nurses told me. Continue Reading…